Lou:
Great stuff. Great points. Great questions. Let me address a few things:
1. When money's involved, hell yes egos get put by the wayside. I also just don't play for money all that often (another huge difference between me and my former partner, btw).
2. I am longer than most golfers, true. But I am absolutely shorter than most 3-4 handicappers. But you're right - the shorter the course is, the better off I am, as it means I get to hit some wedges or shorter irons - which he does anyway regardless of the tees at a lot of courses. But as for how I feel about stroke-play success, well... it depends on the course, and remember that's not what drives me that much in general. Using that measure though, I am ecstatic with anything under 80 at Pasa, which is about 6400 from the tips. Same would go for Cypress Point. But the same also goes for Spyglass, which is 500+ yards longer. But just like my friend Dave, stroke play doesn't drive me all that much... I am much like him in that single shots tend to make my day much more than 18-hole scores. At this point in my life, having played so much golf in so many forms, it takes something extreme in an 18-hole score to get me to care much either way. That is, absurdly good or absurdly bad. Anything in between doesn't matter that much.
3. I rate a course about one time for every 50 rounds I play, so that's not very relevant. But when that occurs, what I do - since a required criterion is resistance to scoring - is play the longest set of tees that seem reasonable, that is, that anyone ever really plays. That might be the tips, but might be one set up, at courses that have "ceremonial" monster back tees. Then resistance to scoring is determined based on that. For all the rest, it doesn't matter much what tees I play, as it's not that tough to extrapolate and use one's imagination, as well as observational skills.
But good lord, how did this turn into another ratings discussion?
TH